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Hello & welcome to my fashion & lifestyle blog, Style My Mind! Here I post weekly about affordable fashion trends, but ya know, like real affordable! My favorite products, beauty routines & lifestyle experiences! I'm a girls-girl who loves the outdoors, white tee shirts & Disney World. Join me on my journey!

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They understand your unrealistic emotional rollercoasters. We all know the female breed has a whirlwind of emotions bundled up just waiting to burst out at any given moment and men just are not equipped to handle it. If we want to cry, we accept it; if we want to scream; let it out girl; if we want to complain about something that in the grand scheme of life, doesn't even amount to a grain of sand, we're here for ya! We are more accepting to breakdowns, devilish outbursts and shutdowns, it's what we are good at!


1. They understand your unrealistic emotional rollercoasters. We all know the female breed has a whirlwind of emotions bundled up just waiting to burst out at any given moment and men just are not equipped to handle it. If we want to cry, we accept it; if we want to scream; let it out girl; if we want to complain about something that in the grand scheme of life, doesn't even amount to a grain of sand, we're here for ya! We are more accepting to breakdowns, devilish outbursts and shutdowns, it's what we are good at!


  1. We are good listeners. We know most men just nod their heads and pretend to listen to what you are saying while tackling something around the house, but they didn't listen. They heard you, but listening is not their forte. Women listen, accept and give meaningful advice in return. I feel women have experienced more than men because when they go through a difficult time, they actually feel it, talk about it and release it. Most men hold things in and never really re-cover. I am NOT bashing men here, I am just stating my opinions on why having girlfriends is so important!


  2. Most women are self-less, at least the women I hang around. I know if I needed any of my girlfriends they would drop everything they are doing to be there for me in a second. Not saying Dan wouldn't do that, but it may take some begging. If i want to cry, if I need a drink, if it's something so silly my girls are on board with whatever I need. If I say "hey I need to get out of town!" They say "where to?". Last year, Marissa and I were both in bad places and out of nowhere we said "Let's go to Texas!" And two weeks later we off to Houston and Austin to leave our probs behind.


  3. You can be yourself. Sometimes with guys you have to hold back a little or pretend. With your girlfriends you can 100% be yourself. It's comfortable and stressfree. Women all have weird things they do they like to hide from men, but you would totally break that weird shit out in front of your GFs. For instance, I like to start watching Hallmark Christmas movies mid-October, Marissa is on board, Dan is not. I am pretty much myself in front of Dan because we were friends for so long, but I still can't say certain things to him I can my girls.


    5. Women are loyal beings and won't cheat on you! They are fa life. Mostly. I feel like the friends you have in your 30s will most likely be your friends forever. You should have boiled all the bad eggs by this point. Yes some people grow apart but once you get to 34 the friends you have are legit. You are more selective when choosing them, and the ones who made it this far from childhood passed the loyalty test years ago. It's much easier to forgive your babes than a man sometimes.

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    XO, Cheers
    Jenn & my Girl Gang

 

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Well, I already wrote, copied, pasted photos and links for this blog and I completely LOST IT!!! UGH. I am so mad at myself because I know how tempermental this Mac is and I do not save my work as much as I should. Ok, sorry, real life vent sesh for a moment.

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Well, I already wrote, copied, pasted photos and links for this blog and I completely LOST IT!!! UGH. I am so mad at myself because I know how tempermental this Mac is and I do not save my work as much as I should. Ok, sorry, real life vent sesh for a moment.

I wanted to get a blog done for you "real quick" so you can see some of my top picks for fall. I have about 90% of what I am going to share with you the others are wish list items. This year I am a big fan of work out clothes ESPECIALLY the Zella leggings from Nordstrom but I am doing a mostly Amazon//affordable blog post for you here. I am also really loving the bike short trend. I like to wear them with oversized shirts or sweaters. OK enough of me, here they are :) enjoy. I hope you find something you like!

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Happy Fall Y'all!
XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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So... about a year ago I joined the new relationship 15 lb club! You know, the "we're having fun let's eat and drink all we want" . Well, two months ago I looked at myself in the mirror and was like "omg what happened?!?!" Of course Dan is always like "you look great" lol but this wasn't for him or anyone else it was for me. I felt like crap!


So... about a year ago I joined the new relationship 15 lb club! You know, the "we're having fun let's eat and drink all we want" . Well, two months ago I looked at myself in the mirror and was like "omg what happened?!?!" Of course Dan is always like "you look great" lol but this wasn't for him or anyone else it was for me. I felt like crap!






So I started a 30 day plan with AtmosEffect (gym on wheels) and my friend -slash- trainer Kerven! I told him, "I need carbs, I like wine & sweets HELP!" Kerven helped to get me on a weekly workout routine six days a week & also helped me diet without having to cut things the things I love!! [my sister swears by macros eating & it really does work people]!! Macros eating is a healthier way to eat for your body. I have anxiety so cutting carbs was not good for me, it made me gain weight. So for instance here was my macros diet plan:

130g protein
90g carbs
50g fat

My daily meals would look like this:

Workout
Protein Shake

-Breakfast-
2 eggs with cheese


-Snack-
Celery with almond butter

-Lunch-
¼ cup jasmine rice
4oz grilled chicken

3oz green veggie

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Salad with chicken, cucumbers, tomatoes, feta, balsamic vinaigrette

-Snack-
Chobani less sugar Strawberry greek yogurt

-Dinner-

Salmon or Chicken
Sweet potatoes
Veggies

-Snack-
¼ cup Halo Top
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5oz glass of Cabernet

I do drink a lot of coffee and teas as well without any creamer. In my shakes for a meal replacement I will add banana, almond butter, clean protein obvi, and some frozen berries. I also like making chia pudding, which is 3 TSP of chia seeds, 1 cup almond milk; chill it overnight then add berries in the morning.



The last time I had a trainer I dropped weight FAST I was also 28. Being 34 it took longer but at 4 weeks I dropped 4 inches in my waist, at 5 weeks I dropped 2 more. My legs are stronger and more cut, my butt is lifted & I am a size 4 again!! I still have a lot of work to do - especially with these arms [sore subject]— but I now have a new mindset and healthier lifestyle!! We all fall short sometimes and have to reset and reboot. Don't get down on yourself, just start somewhere!

 

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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I think in some ways I have always considered myself an influencer. I have always been strong willed, strong minded, and adapted very well to change. I am very decisive and pretty much know what I was and go after it right away; I have always tried to empower other women to follow their dreams, take chances and follow their hearts.




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I think in some ways I have always considered myself an influencer. I have always been strong willed, strong minded, and adapted very well to change. I am very decisive and pretty much know what I was and go after it right away; I have always tried to empower other women to follow their dreams, take chances and follow their hearts.

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If you would have asked me what an influencer was five years ago I would not have described it as someone who lays out their personal experiences and shopping trips on social media for everyone to see and admire. I feel like there is a very fine line between influencing/inspiring and just bragging about the crap you have. 
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The longer I am emerged in this industry the more I have changed my interest in the people I follow and spend time engaging with. I am not a big LTK'er, I don't buy stuff just to post it so people buy it and I make money. The fact is, I don't do this for money at all. It's definitely a nice perk, but I do it because I genuinely love sharing my life experiences and I love writing. I love fashion as well, but it's not my focus-point on my platform anymore.

"it's about being God's vessel to share your miracles"

I have immersed myself into God's word and am really seeing the importance of the life we live here. It's not about what we have, or the money we make, it's about being God's vessel to share your miracles, share your wow-moments and lead people to a fuller life with love, faith, hope and kindness. That's what I am here for. 

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My blog is not one of those that exploded over night by feeding your brain with clothes and junk you don't really need. In fact is has taken me 3 years to get to 9300 followers because I did not jump on the LTK bandwagon, and also because I don't want to spend every spare second I have behind a phone.

I have a really great relationship that I like to be present in and also there are times I want to remember moments in my brain and not document. Unfortunately, to become "successful" in this industry means selling yourself to the IG devil and probably developing an eye disease from sitting behind a phone or computer for hours.

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I read blogs from the gals who have 100k+ followers and they all said the same thing, their free time was spent on their blog, behind the phone, creating content. I love this blog and would love for it to be a full time job, but I am not willing to sell my mind, my fragile emotions and mental health or relationships for it.

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It has to be a good balance between blog and real life. So if you are looking to get into this industry do it because you love it. Sometimes, I do get jealous that I don't have 100k followers or even 10k yet, BUT, I have an amazing job, a great guy, wonderful friends and life experiences that I appreciate everyday. I am willing to share those with all of you, and love doing it but I won't sell my soul to become "friends" with 100k people I don't know.  

"they are real and organic and those are the relationships I want to keep and nurture"

I have made some great friends and built some great relationships doing this though, and I know they are real and organic and those are the relationships I want to keep and nurture! So thanks to all of you who do love me and support me and follow me for being me, love you back babes!

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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What does independence mean to you? After traveling to Europe and hearing the history of Berlin, Germany I have become more grateful for my freedom than ever. Could you imagine not being able to see your family for years because they were on the other side of a wall? Or being told what to believe, how to live etc? American politics are not really something I ever discuss because it's not part of my platform, but I know there are opinions, laws and ideas that I do not agree with.




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THE IMPORTANCE OF I N D E P E N D E N C E

What does independence mean to you? After traveling to Europe and hearing the history of Berlin, Germany I have become more grateful for my freedom than ever. Could you imagine not being able to see your family for years because they were on the other side of a wall? Or being told what to believe, how to live etc? American politics is not really something I ever discuss because it's not part of my platform, but I know there are opinions, laws and ideas that I do not agree with. I am a feminist and I believe that women can do anything, be anything and deserve complete equality. I am dating someone who doesn't see eye to eye with me on that completely but he has the freedom and right to believe what he wants. That is the beauty of independence.

One of the reasons I have been single for so long is because I love my independence and freedom. I love being able to do what I want, when I want, with who I want. But, the beauty in finding someone else is seeing eye to eye on THAT! Opinions can differ but you have to be agreeable on the relationship. I would never tell Dan what to do, or vice versa. I never feel like I need to keep tabs on him or ask where he is 24/7. We don't have that kind of relationship because we both believe in independence. We follow the same morales, and have the same relationship wants at this point, so it works.

I love having independence to create something beautiful like my blog. Where I can openly voice my thoughts and opinions kindly and truthfully. In this society we have so much freedom to be who and what we want to be and I am so thankful for be a part of this lifetime.

At work, I came from a place where I was constantly watched, constantly checked up on and needed to be at the desk 8-5 everyday even if my work was done. I am a type-A personality, my shit is handled. At The Hartford, they are firm believers in work/life balance, and working however long or short to get your job done and done well, period. I love that. Because when people start to get pressure put on them, or start being watched they shut down. You have to give people the freedom to work how it works best for them. Not everyone finds success the same way.

The point of this blog is to tell you how lucky we, as Americans, are to be able to have our own opinions, our own thoughts, ideas and voyage in life. We are FREE, and for that we are blessed.

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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As my six year anniversary in Florida approaches I sit here and reflect on everything that has changed in the last six years. I think about where I came from and where I am now. Boy, oh, boy is there quite a difference. I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, but moving to Florida definitely was not one of them.




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As my six year anniversary in Florida approaches I sit here and reflect on everything that has changed in the last six years. I think about where I came from and where I am now. Boy, oh, boy is there quite a difference. I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, but moving to Florida definitely was not one of them.

June 15, 2013

I set sail in my Nissan Sentra with Stella as my ride or die, & dad in tow with my junk. It felt so freeing to pack my stuff, and leave everything I knew behind for an unknown future. It's scary because I had no idea what was in store, but at the same time it was really exciting because it was something I never thought that I would do. I left my comfortable turtle shell and became a butterfly.

I lived in Jacksonville for a year and quickly learned it was not for me. It was hard to meet friends & the vibe just wasn't me. In June 2014 I moved to Tampa, FL where I have been ever since. I fell in love with this city. I have lived in multiple locations throughout the bay and have made a home for myself. I have made a ton of mistakes, but also made a lot of great friends and people I can even call family.

It's crazy to think I was brave enough to walk away from the whole life I knew to start a new one, but now I get so scared of the small, unknown parts of the future. The "what if's" haunt the heck out of me sometimes. What if he leaves me? What if I lose my job? What if I don't have the best shoes in the room? Why do we put so much pressure and worry on things that haven't even happened yet? Fear lives in the future, that is what we are afraid of. Instead of thinking about "what if" I am going to start thinking about RIGHT NOW. AM ok right now? Is anything wrong? Am I happy? Am I healthy? Is everyone safe? Do you have a job? Yes … ok so then why worry about something that isn't even happening at the moment. When we worry, we can sometimes manifest these bad thoughts into reality. But the good news is, we can also manifest GOOD thoughts into reality too.

Like I talked about in one of my previous blogs, Faith vs Fear, I talked about being thankful for things you vision but don't even have yet. Envision your life, what you want and what you expect for it and you CAN make it reality. However, if God has something better planned for you, He will make it happen. It's the most difficult thing in the world to completely give yourself, your mind, your thoughts, worries and happiness to God but it's also the most relieving. When you don't have to take on the pressures or stress of wondering, "Is this going to work out?," "Is this who I am meant to be with?" etc. Practice this. Take your negative thoughts, roll them into a fake, imaginary ball in your hands & throw it up in the air. Pretend that God catches it, & is doing something wonderful with your ball-o-worry. Then, you get to go about your day like nothing will take you down.

No one is worth your tears or worry.

Think about what you're thinking about today, the worry, the anger… are you going to be thinking about this in a month or year from now? So why you stressin' it boo? Why am I stressin' it? If it's meant to be, it will.  A reason, a season or a lifetime… this goes with anything but mostly relationships. Not everyone is forever, I have said this many times. I never date someone with the intention or expectation of getting a ring on my finger because I believe expectations are the root of disappointment. I date for the present, what is going on now! I am a planner, but, somethings just aren't "plannable" ....like relationships. Even if you are married, nothing is ever promised.

I am excited to announce, that I have suavely been able to talk my friend into selling her condo in NJ & have her come to live with me in Florida. She was in the same situation I was, friends all married, stuck in a dead-end job with winters that could kill. She came to visit & of course fell in love with Tampa. I told her that if it was meant to be, it would come easy & fall into place. AND. IT. DID!!!! She got a job fairly quickly & her condo is up for sail! She has cast her worries aside & is ready to begin a new life in Florida. I am so excited for you, Shea! Can't wait to be roomies!

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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Nine months to go until my sister's wedding and I am so excited. This will be the ninth wedding I have been in but of course one of the most important. It is the second time I will be an maid of honor but so many things have changed since the last time in 2011. Now we do bachelorette gifts, matching shirts, favors and have themes for everything and everything must be chic, chic, chic. Let's be honest, if you have been following me you know I am a sucker for a good theme and a chic design.

AHHH! Nine months to go until my sister's wedding and I am so excited. This will be the ninth wedding I have been in but of course one of the most important. It is the second time I will be an maid of honor but so many things have changed since the last time in 2011. Now we do bachelorette gifts, matching shirts, favors and have themes for everything and everything must be chic, chic, chic. Let's be honest, if you have been following me you know I am a sucker for a good theme and a chic design.



 

I decided to go with "Meant to Bee" for my sister's shower in December because everyone calls her "Bee" and her fiance is "TJ" or "Tee". In the past I have ordered such elaborate and expensive invitations that were not created or designed by me but someone else.

I found Basic Invite and became instantly drawn in by their easy-to-design invitations and the packages they offer. Their chic wedding save the dates, invitations and chic photo coaster favors are classy and formal. Everything matches, and I love that! It's so simple to order everything from invitations, response cards, favors and thank you cards in one simple order.

 

My sister's wedding theme is shabby-chic and rustic so I went with the Golden Laural Bridal Shower Invitation that has a slight wooden look to it with gold-foil detail. It is exactly what she would want. I customized the invitation with all the information and included their Disney engagement photo on the back. It was easy to choose a photo and upload onto the site.

 

Here are some differences that I love about Basic Invite over other companies.

You can get a real sample sent to you prior to ordering. Most companies will not allow you to do this. A wedding is one of the most important events of someone's life, of course it should be absolutely perfect just as your invitations should be.


You can customize the invitations with almost unlimited color choices to match the theme of the shower or wedding. My sister's wedding is black, white and gold with hints of burgundy. Since her shower theme is bees I stuck with simple wood and gold for her invitations which also correlates with her actual wedding theme. They also have over 40 colors of envelope choices for that bit of color pop you're looking for.

They have over 900 wedding invitation sets including save the dates, wedding invitations and enclosure cards, wedding menus, wedding programs and even matching thank you cards! And how cute are the chic photo coaster favors? Something everyone can use!

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"I'm so unwilling to offer any of my limited free time to any man who isn't, like, the man. My girlfriend said this to me, 'No more princes. A man shows up as a king for you or nothing,'" Bush said. "And like, yeah, I built my own castle. I'm good. I don't need you for anything so you better be a value add." With that, Faris added, "Build your own ladder, I'm not growing my hair out."-Sophia Bush




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A few weeks ago I read this article from Sophia Bush who was on Anna Faris' PodCast "Unqualified" talking about her past relationships and how she settled and some of the biggest mistakes she made in her past. I read this at the most perfect time. 

Reading her article I realized if I just look past the big differences like religion or political stance,  I would be settling for the potential in the relationship instead of what it really is.

"What I realize is that I have to own my role in it, because more often than not, I have chosen to date the potential I see in someone and not who somebody is in this current moment."- SB

It's so true. We look at the men we are dating sometimes and make excuses or just say "he will change." People don't change, and more importantly men don't change because they don't like to admit their faults or insecurities. I have been described as intimidating because most women don't have their lives together like me. I make a lot of money, have my own place, my own business, can take vacations and have the freedom and finances to do mostly whatever I want. Well, most guys, like to be needed and when a woman doesn't need them it becomes a threat.

Bush shares that what she realized is that when someone, especially a man, tells a woman she's "intimidating," it really means he's "intimidated."-SB

It's not my problem that you have been with girls and I am a woman. I feel like at this point if this is how the other power operates I am fine being single forever. Sorry, but not sorry. I always say it's better to be wanted than needed. And in my last relationship this was true, because his ex wife was a money grubbing cheater who needed him but didn't want him. In the current situation he has always dated girls who needed him financially and emotionally because they were so insecure so it made him feel better about himself. I want to help someone be a better version of themselves but they have to WANT to be that version, if not you can't force it.

"And I realized that if I wasn't as patient with myself or as loving to myself as I've been with partners who just didn't, at the end of the day, deserve it...and again that's not a hateful thing, it's just to say like, 'You don't deserve this piece of me,'" Bush says. "That's OK, I f--ked up giving it to you when you didn't deserve it...and I don't deserve to treat myself that way either."-SB

Why am I going to give you the best part of me if I am not getting that in return? That is a clear waste of my minimal spare time. At the end of the day, I know who I am, I know what I want. You need to write your non-negotiables down and don't settle for less than that because I know people who have and now years later they are stuck. Don't let yourself get stuck with someone you already know isn't best for you. My favorite part of this article:

"I'm so unwilling to offer any of my limited free time to any man who isn't, like, the man. My girlfriend said this to me, 'No more princes. A man shows up as a king for you or nothing,'" Bush said. "And like, yeah, I built my own castle. I'm good. I don't need you for anything so you better be a value add." With that, Faris added, "Build your own ladder, I'm not growing my hair out."

And I will just leave it at that. Read the full interview here.

 Xo, Cheers!
Jenn



 

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If you did not know, I am obsessed with toothbrushes. It's one of my "tell me something people don't know about you" items. I cannot tell you when this obsession took over or why honestly but I believe because teeth are the first thing I notice on a person and my girlfriends can attest to that, we are all on the same page. It is so important to take care of your teeth because poor dental hygiene can lead to other medical issues. Brushing and flossing is so simple to prevent teeth conditions or more.

If you did not know, I am obsessed with toothbrushes. It's one of my "tell me something people don't know about you" items. I cannot tell you when this obsession took over or why honestly but I believe because teeth are the first thing I notice on a person and my girlfriends can attest to that, we are all on the same page. It is so important to take care of your teeth because poor dental hygiene can lead to other medical issues. Brushing and flossing is so simple to prevent teeth conditions or more.

I started using cariPRO™ ELECTRIC TOOTHBRUSH a few months ago and it has not failed me. Here is what I love about it:

The five settings and personally, the "whitening" one. I have never seen that before so I am loving it. I also love the "Gum care" and "Sensitive" as well. I bleached my teeth for a little too long a few weeks ago and had to use the "Sensitive" setting for a few days, it worked great.


The small, easy charging dock. It's easy to take it on vacation with you if you want. I always say when I go away how I hate using a regular toothbrush because they just don't feel as clean no matter how long you brush and I hate that sweater feeling on the back of my teeth.
 

It charges quickly and stays charged for a while. I can easily take it with me on a long weekend with no issues of having to recharge.

I love the sleek slate and blue color. I am a fashion-gal of course I need to look at the style of the toothbrush haha!
 

Lastly, it's SUPER quiet. I did not think this was something I would even think about until I switched from my old electric toothbrush to this one! It's like riding in a luxury car over a Hyundai.


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I have also used SmileBrilliant's whitening kit. It's awesome. They send you the mold, you mold your teeth and send it back. Then they send you personal trays with the whitening gel as well as the desensitizing gel. You leave on for 30-60 min and do a few times a week. I will link their website below.

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I am also giving one lucky winner a chance to win one of these beauties. You can enter below.

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I am also offering all my followers 20% with code stylemymind20

Like I have been discussing taking care of yourself, watching what you put in and on your body is super important. Cancer can take up residence anywhere on or in your body so be preventative in all ways possible, including your teeth!

XO, Cheers!
Jenn


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Helloooo!! So, today is the 3 year anniversary of Style My Mind. I have to be honest, there was a point in December when I thought I may quit and shut it all down because I had no idea where I wanted to go with my blog. Instead, I sat back and remembered my "why". Why was the reason I started my blog? Because I love writing, I love fashion and I love sharing my life experiences to help motivate others. That is when "Faith in Fear" started. We always share the happy stories but sometimes we need to be vulnerable enough to share the truth.



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Helloooo!! So since it's my 3rd year of blogging I have to be honest, there was a point in December when I thought I may quit and shut it all down because I had no idea where I wanted to go with my blog. Instead, I sat back and remembered my "why". Why was the reason I started my blog? Because I love writing, I love fashion and I love sharing my life experiences to help motivate others. That is when "Faith in Fear" started. We always share the happy stories but sometimes we need to be vulnerable enough to share the truth.

That is what today's blog is about. Why it's better to be truthful and honest than sugar coat things. Granted I realize there is a time and place for all things but I have gotten a lot of feedback and majority of my friends love that I am straight forward and say it like it is. But, I expect it back too.

I am the friend who will always tell you when something doesn't fit right. I will always tell you when you're an idiot to keep running back to the same loser over and over again. I am honest about my life, about my faults. If I like you, you'll know it. If I don't you will definitely know it.

I don't play pretend friends with people I don't like or respect. I also don't let anyone disrespect me. If you say something insulting or rude I will let you know it. If you are the best friend ever, I will tell you and show you.

I am as loyal as they come and I won't ever make promises I don't intend to keep. I talk a lot, a lot! But lately I do try to sit back and respond instead of react because here is what I found out. A reaction can sometimes be plain out nasty, "OMG that shirt is hideous". Now I know I can say this with some of my friends, but not all. So if it's someone who's a little more sensitive I may say, "I think you would look really awesome in something like this," and show an example.

I used to be unintentionally hurtful with my brutal honesty so I have tried to spruce it up a little bit. My reactions can be strong and I learned maybe not to say everything that comes to my mind, but instead think about the appropriate way to say it.

Funny story, I met my friend Alyssa in 2005ish at Clancy's Pub where I worked for about 6 years. She had just started and I had to train her. I told my manager time and again that I am not a good trainer, I am rude and don't pay attention. I still got the newbies. Anyway, Alyssa was 5 years younger than me and a little sheltered. Like never saw a clam, or a crab cake. Of course this was something I made fun of her for. (She is allergic to seafood so she gets a pass). But I used to snap at her "ALYSSA", tell her to get my drinks and would say "Me and my friends are going outback to smoke, you can come or not come I don't care." And she of course never came with. TBH I have no idea when it was that Alyssa and I became such good friends. She was so quiet but so hilarious. I told her what to do and she laughed it off. She never took offense to it but looking back, what a bitch I was. She loved it. 11 years later, I was in her wedding, helped get her a big girl job, and am now dating her husband's best friend! How about that?!

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Most people appreciate the honesty but the point is, know your audience. Tracy for instance I can say anything to her however I want to say it about anyone in any form and she will die laughing. She never takes offense and knows I have a great big heart I just have a strong, Jersey girl opinion with a loud Italian mouth. Gianna, same thing! Marissa, ditto! All my girls know me, they know I don't say things to be hurtful or rude… it's who I am.

Sunshine mixed with a little bit of hurricane!

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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